{"id":2674,"date":"2018-05-09T00:00:45","date_gmt":"2018-05-09T04:00:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/mission-and-identity\/?p=2674"},"modified":"2019-09-18T16:45:30","modified_gmt":"2019-09-18T20:45:30","slug":"may-9-howard-gray-died","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/2018\/05\/09\/may-9-howard-gray-died\/","title":{"rendered":"May 9 &#8212; Howard Gray died"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Wednesday May 9 \u00a0\u00a0\u201cit is more important to be grateful for your love . . . &#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Howard Gray\u2019s unexpected death stunned many people.\u00a0 Mutual friends wrote me and we reminded one another of the wisdom and kindness he brought to his listening. \u00a0 These conversations brought to mind women and men who welcomed me and helped me welcome the world, \u00a0mentored me deep into my adulthood. Howard was surely one.<\/p>\n<p>Once, many years ago we were talking about the demands of loving another adult and of letting her\/his love take hold in my life. \u00a0 I have never forgotten one Howard sentence, one of the wisest teachings about love ever. \u00a0I\u2019ve tried to abide by this wisdom ever since.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIt is more important to be grateful for your love than to manage your behavior within that love\u201d<\/p>\n<p>In his one-on-one conversations as well as in countless talks with groups Howard counseled courage: \u00a0\u201cRisk the loves that are given into your life, on good days and hard days; risk it and be grateful.\u201d \u00a0 Thank you, Howard, \u00a0 I miss \u00a0you.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>john sj<\/p>\n<p><strong>Today\u2019s post: \u00a0Denise Levertov<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Prayer for Revolutionary Love<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>That a woman not ask a man to leave meaningful work to follow her<br \/>\nThat a man not ask a woman to leave meaningful work to follow him.<br \/>\nThat no one try to put Eros in bondage<br \/>\nBut that no one put a cudgel in the hands of Eros.<br \/>\nThat our loyalty to one another and our loyalty to our work<br \/>\nnot be set in false conflict.<br \/>\nThat our love for each other give us love for each other\u2019s work<br \/>\nThat our love for each other\u2019s work give us love for one another.<br \/>\nThat our love for each other\u2019s work give us love for one another.<br \/>\nThat our love for each other give us love for each other\u2019s work.<br \/>\nThat our love for each other, if need be,<br \/>\ngive way to absence.\u00a0 And the unknown.<br \/>\nThat we endure absence, if need be,<br \/>\nwithout losing our love for each other.<br \/>\nWithout closing our doors to the unknown.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/170\/2014\/10\/Denise-Levertov.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-866\" src=\"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/170\/2014\/10\/Denise-Levertov.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"286\" height=\"289\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Denise Levertov \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0 1923 \u2013 1997<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/170\/2018\/05\/HowardGray.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-2675\" src=\"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/170\/2018\/05\/HowardGray.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"241\" height=\"265\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Howard Gray, SJ\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a01930 \u2013 2018<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Wednesday May 9 \u00a0\u00a0\u201cit is more important to be grateful for your love . . . &#8221; Howard Gray\u2019s unexpected death stunned many people.\u00a0 Mutual friends wrote me and we reminded one another of the wisdom and kindness he brought &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/2018\/05\/09\/may-9-howard-gray-died\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":139,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[11641],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2674"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/139"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2674"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2674\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2676,"href":"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2674\/revisions\/2676"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2674"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2674"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/sites.udmercy.edu\/poetry\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2674"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}